Now what more important meeting is there to
dress up for if not for your children or grandchildren? Then when I got
home, while going through my book of memories, I found the most
wonderful article on Being a Mother – it brought so many memories of
bygone years, so I think I’ll publish it and dedicate it to all mothers.
Sorry fathers, you’re just as important as
a mother in the big picture - but this one is for the little lady in
your life who keeps it all together.
Being a Mother
After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted
me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said “I love
you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some
time with you.”
The other woman that my wife wanted me to
visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands
of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only
occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go out
for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked. My
mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a
surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be
pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of
us.”
She thought about it for a moment, and then
said, “I would like that very much.” That Friday after work, as I drove
over to pick her up, I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house I
noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date.
She waited at the door with her coat on.
She curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to
celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was
as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out
with my son, and they were impressed,” she said, as she got into the
car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.” We went to a
restaurant that, although, not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My
mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I
had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Halfway
through to entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring
at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to
read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you
relax and let me return the favour,” I responded. During the dinner, we
had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on
recent events of each other’s life.
We talked so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again,
but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed. “How was your dinner
date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I
could have imagined,” I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a
massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a
chance to do anything for her.
Sometime later, I received an envelope with
a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had
dined. An attached note said: “ I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t
sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates, one
for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night
meant for me. I love you, son.”
At that moment, I understood the importance
of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that
they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give
them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till
“some other time.”
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to
get back to normal after you’ve had a baby….somebody doesn’t know that
once you’re a mother, “normal” is history.
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother
by instinct….somebody never took a three-year- old shopping.
Somebody said being a mother is
boring….somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a
driver’s permit. Somebody said if you’re a “good” mother your child will
“turn out good”….somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a
guarantee.
Somebody said “good” mothers never raise
their voices….somebody never came out the back door just in time to see
her child hit a golf ball through the neighbour’s kitchen window.
Somebody said you don’t need an education
to be a mother….somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.
Somebody said you can’t love the second child as much as you love the
first….somebody doesn’t have two children.
Somebody said a mother can find all the
answers to all her child-rearing questions in books….somebody never had
a child stuff beans up his nose or in his ears.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a
mother is labor and delivery… somebody never watched her” baby” get on
the bus for the first day of kindergarten…..or on a plane headed to for
military camp.
Somebody said a mother can do her job with
her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back….somebody never
organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying
after her child gets married… somebody doesn’t know that marriage adds a
new son or daughter-in-law to a mother’s heartstrings.
Somebody said a mother’s job is done when
her last child leaves home… somebody never had grandchildren.
Somebody said your mother knows you love
her, so you don’t need to tell her….somebody isn’t a mother.
Pass this along to all the “mothers” in
your life and to everyone who ever had a mother. This isn’t just about
being a mother; it’s about appreciating the people in your life while
you have them….no matter who that person is.